First off, you need to pass the -u option to your fw tab -t connections -f command or it will only display the first 50 entries or so.
Also the correct command to view the SecureXL connections table is fwaccel conns, not fwaccel conn. Note that if a connection is not partially or fully accelerated (i.e. in the F2F path) it will not appear in the output of fwaccel conns at all with a f/F flag marking, this behavior changed in R80.30.
As far as not seeing the connection with fw ctl conntab, you may be running afoul of this: sk126573: Incorrect output of "fw ctl conntab" when CoreXL is enabled
If even with these corrections you still can't find the connection, try looking at the global dispatcher connection table with fw ctl multik gconn. If you can't find it there something is seriously wrong. You can also try the undocumented command fw_mux all to look at the connections table from the perspective of the multiplexer/pipeline-based paths.
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