One site being destroyed isn't really split-brain. If one whole datacenter is gone, then the other member should take over because it's still there.
If the interconnect between the datacenters fails, that would be split-brain, sure. Depending on the rest of the environment (in particular, whether there are things in both datacenters which respond to pings from the firewalls), that could result in both members becoming active, though they wouldn't conflict with each other, as the link between the datacenters is down.
This has complicated implications if the two cluster members have totally independent connectivity to the same things outside the datacenters. For example, if they each have their own Internet connection, and they talk BGP with the telco, that could result in both of them trying to claim to be the right path for the AS, which could result in anycast-style traffic flow.
If the DC-to-DC link goes down, and one member decides it isn't healthy enough to take over, I don't know of a way to force it to take over anyway.