OK I had to really think about this one for awhile.
What does the CPU utilization look like on the Active VS when the problems start? Sync network issues will cause excessive CPU utilization on the Active, and the Cisco storm control could certainly cause this when policing kicks in. Do you have Aggressive aging enabled under Inspection Settings?
Sounds to me like the Cisco sync network policing started to cause sync issues that incurred extremely high CPU load on your Active VS once your sync traffic reached a certain level. As the VS gets further and further behind trying to process traffic and simultaneously catch the sync network back up, the connections table (and/or memory utilization) hits the default 80% threshold and Aggressive Aging kicks in to start removing connections earlier and earlier than the default 7200 seconds in the state table thus causing the out of state messages. While the connections table continues to be brutally pruned back by Aggressive Aging on the Active, state sync is so far behind that the Standby member still has a large number of connections showing because it has not received the delete notifications from the Active.
Once everything catches back up, normalcy returns. Does this scenario sound plausible?
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