Thanks for the responses - My issue was using CPUSE in the GAiA - I needed to release my control freak issues, and allow the upgrade to happen in the SmartConsole. After I just went in and allowed it to update on its own, full cluster, latest release, the upgrade went thru. I had no luck using SmartConsole trying to just upgrade one member. It looks like I will be giving more trust to the SmartConsole upgrade/updates in the future.
The 'install on all cluster members' option does what I normally do. Install on the standby member, reboots it, checks to see if/when it comes back up, then proceeds to make it active, upgrades the other member, and switches it back to active after everything is done.
Thanks again for the respones!